This past weekend I spent Shabbat in Brooklyn with all my siblings. My brother was celebrating his son's bar mitzvah, and my siblings all flew in for the occasion. With nine siblings spread out across the globe, it's hard to get together often, and the last time we were all together was five years ago at another family celebration.
At Friday night dinner we were all eager to share stories and catch up with each other. My oldest brother, Dr. Mordechai Vigler, is chief of hand surgery at Rabin Medical Center, Hasharon campus in Israel. He shared this story with us:
A woman came to see him with her four-year-old son. She was Jewish, but not observant.
She had been experiencing severe pain in one of her hands, and she noted that the pain was always worse in the morning.
My brother asked her, "Is the pain worse after you wash hands and say modeh ani?"
The woman looked confused, so my brother explained to her that as Jews, the first thing we do in the morning is recite modeh ani, thanking G-d for allowing us to wake up and experience another day.
The consultation continued and my brother diagnosed her and then she and her four-year-old left. The entire consultation was probably less than five minutes, because there were another 60 patients waiting!
Six months down the line, this woman returned for a follow-up visit. Again, her four-year-old son was with her. As soon as the child saw my brother, he asked his mother, "Is this themodeh ani doctor?
I was incredulous. My brother had only spent a few minutes with this woman, and the comment about modeh ani only took up a fraction of that time. And to top it off, that visit had been a full six months earlier! But this young boy had been reciting modeh ani every morning for the last six months, all because of this one casual encounter with the doctor who mentioned G-d. Wow!
In this week's parshah we read about the sin of lashon hara - slander. We are told that when a person slanders, it's as if 3 people are killed: the person who speaks, the person who listens and the person about whom they are speaking. Such is the power of speech!
If negative speech is so powerful, imagine what an impact a positive word, thought or experience can have. A single positive encounter can change a person's life.
Let's make sure to focus on speaking positively; together we can change the world.