Purim was extremely busy for me this year. We planned a party for 550 people on Purim night, which completely sold out. But human nature (and Jewish nature!) is such that as soon as people hear “sold out,” they suddenly feel “must desperately attend!” So our office was absolutely flooded with calls from people trying to use every connection they could to get in.
Then on Purim day I had a breakfast event with our visiting wounded Belev Echad soldiers planned, followed by an indoor street fair where we were expecting another 600 people.
Suffice it to say, Purim was extremely hectic, and of all days that’s when my Whatsapp—my primary means of communication—stopped working.
Now, we have a wonderful family in our neighborhood who have become close friends. They are elderly Holocaust survivors with a beautiful daughter. Since Covid began, they have been unable to attend shul, and were not able to join any of our Purim festivities.
A few days before Purim, I arranged for some yeshiva students to go and read the megillah and celebrate with them at night and again during the day. But Daylight Savings Time had just come into effect, and the yeshiva students weren’t able to get there until 10pm, when the family was already sleeping.
I felt awful, and decided to do the morning visit and megillah reading myself, before I got caught up in the day. No matter how many other things I had to do, I decided to make this my priority.
We went to their house, brought them Mishloach Manot, danced together, read the megillah, talked, and shared the joy of the holiday. And while I was there, an interesting thing happened: I had come to bring them joy, but in the end I experienced intense joy myself! In fact, I think I derived more joy from the encounter than they did!
And so I’m grateful. Thank you, Sarah, for giving me and my kids so much joy and happiness.
You see, we live in a world programmed to make us think our lives are miserable. Think of all the advertisements that pop up on your feed. All the things they tell us we need - if only we had them, we’d be happy. That car, that new phone, the trip to the Bahamas.
But the truth is, none of this will bring true joy. All it does is temporarily distract us, and then the yearning for the next one crops up.
True happiness comes from those quiet moments, when nobody is around, and you are able to bring joy to another human being – that is real simcha!
So let’s seek out those opportunities to help others; and in the process, we’ll be helping ourselves.
If you would like to visit this special family as well please reach out.
Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Uriel Vigler