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Channel Your Fear!

I came home one evening this week, and had just sat down when I heard a blood-curdling shriek. It was our cleaner, who doesn’t speak a word of English but was in a total panic, gesturing and screaming. 

Coming from South Africa, my immediate thought was a home invasion. In the span of 1-2 seconds I quickly calculated who was in the house, possible escape routes, and what I could potentially use as a weapon. 

But then she pulled out her phone to translate her Spanish into English: 

“Mister, I have never been so terrified in my life!” she said. 

“What’s wrong?” I asked. 

“Rats.”

“Where?”

“Outside.” 

Turns out she was cleaning up outside, and under the stairs she found rats. Not just one or two, but a whole family. 

Anyone who lives in NYC knows just how much of a rat problem we have right now. We even have a newly appointed “Rat Czar” to try and take care of it. The rats are truly everywhere. 

I immediately called an exterminator and they got rid of the problem. Thank G-d there were no rats in the house, only outside. 

What is the lesson here?

Before his passing, Rabbi Yochanan Ben Zakai, one of the Talmudic sages, blessed his students that they should fear G-d like they fear man. The students were confused, and Rabbi Yochanan explained that most people’s first thought when doing something wrong is, “Can anyone see me?” Imagine if we were that aware of G-d’s presence at all times! 

My cleaning lady was so scared she could hardly speak, and I would have been just as terrified if I’d been the one to bump into those rodents. Imagine if we could channel that fear into our Divine service, and use it to propel us to do the right thing at all times, even when no one else is around to see.

How Much Would It Take for You to Get Up Early?

Over Pesach we made sure to have a minyan every morning.

One day, during Chol Hamoed, I got a text from Yankel*, “Tell your son I will give him 10 to 1 odds on our arrival times: if he gets there before me, I give him $50, and if I get there before him, he gives me $5.”

What’s the background?

Every night I had to send out text messages to make sure we would have a guaranteed quorum of 10 for our minyan. With some people needing to get to work, I had promised a prompt start and end time, so we couldn’t waste time waiting for people to show up or calling around in the morning for a 10th. 

Thank G-d we succeeded every day, but it required not only waking up early, but rushing out of the house early—something that Yankel found challenging. He began noticing that my teenage son also finds it difficult, dashing in a few minutes late with tired eyes. So he made him the offer. 

I showed it to my son and he was excited for the challenge. I forwarded a screenshot of the bet to the shul president who offered another $20 if my son beat Yankel. 

Well, the next morning I woke my son gently at 7am as usual and went to get ready myself. Usually, I come back at 7:15 to wake him a second time, but he was already up and getting ready. 

Yankel, too, pushed himself to get out of bed and win the bet. He rushed and arrived at 7:31am feeling confident he had won. 

Alas, my son had arrived at 7:25 and was already there, having proudly earned his $70. 

But what about the rest of us? How can we be motivated to get out of bed day after day when we’re tired, it’s the same old routine, and it’s hard. 

But what if there was a one billion dollar prize waiting for you every morning when you got up? Would you not jump out of bed with excitement?

The Shulchan Aruch (Code of Jewish Law) begins with a very clear and strong instruction for how we are to begin our day as a Jew: “Strengthen yourself like a lion to get up in the morning to serve your Creator.”

So actually, forget the $70 my son earned. We all have the opportunity to earn a billion dollars every single morning! What an incentive! 

How? By connecting—body and soul—to something greater than ourselves: the Almighty G-d. When we get up and go to shul, and daven with a minyan, that is absolutely priceless—to Him and to us. Moreover, it can completely alter our day, our mood, and mindset. 

So, what are you still doing in bed? Yalla! Up and out … come to shul!

A Jew in Stavropol

A friend and colleague here on the Upper East Side texted me this week: “There’s a Jew in Stavropol [a small town in Russia] who needs matzah for Pesach. What can we do? Can you connect me to someone in Russia who can deliver some handmade shemurah matzah to him?”

I immediately texted my cousin in Odessa. Even though he’s in Ukraine, I figured he’d know the best person to reach out to, and indeed, within 5 minutes I had the contact information of someone in Russia who could help. 

Three days later I received a text with a picture of shemurah matzah, meat, and wine that this person had brought to the Jew in need in Stavropol—who was of course overjoyed and grateful that he could now fulfill the mitzvah of eating matzah on Pesach. 

I found this story incredibly inspiring, but not for the reasons you might think. Yes, it was amazing that a Jew in Manhattan contacted me, and I contacted my cousin, who used his Russian contact to locate a remote Jew and deliver Pesach supplies. 

But what truly inspired me was that Jew living in Stavropol in 2023 is thinking about and trying to track down shemurah matzah for Pesach! Surely he, like all of us, has significant problems, needs, desires, and worries. 

We’re living in unprecedented times. Social and political turmoil all over the world. AI simultaneously making jobs obsolete and opening up vast new vistas of possibility … 

And then there are all the day-to-day things we think about. When’s the next vacation? Where should we go tonight? Which bottle of wine should we open? Which movie should we watch? 

But to be worried about shemurah matzah, to the extent that people all over the world are set into motion to get you some … that inspires me. 

This is the power of our people.

The Seder is the most observed Jewish ritual. In fact, it’s a historical event! This is the 3334th time we’re marking our freedom from Egypt and the formation of our nation.

But who are we? Who is this nation of Jewish people? What defines us? What identifies us as Jews?

That desire for shemurah matzah. That longing to connect to G-d and commemorate our freedom, despite all our differences and imperfections. 

We may argue, we may fight, we may have strong opinions and stray from Hashem and His Torah temporarily. But look deeper at a Jew and you will see someone who, at their core, cares deeply about shemurah matzah. That’s what we should see, and that’s what Hashem sees. 

So as we sit around the Seder table, let’s remember that this is our true essence and a mitzvah that is observed by more Jews than any other. It binds us.  

Wishing you a happy and kosher Pesach.

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