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Please Remove Me From Your Mailing List

So much of the work we do caring for wounded soldiers at Belev Echad is only possible thanks to our many generous donors. Every contribution counts, no matter the size.

Recently, we reached out to a donor who sent us $100 after the October 7th massacre. We shared some of the work we’ve done and some of our current needs, and asked if she’d be willing to donate again. 

When she didn’t respond, we sent a follow-up email.

This time, she replied quickly. “Please take me off your list. Do not contact me again. I cannot in good conscience continue to donate with the way the situation has deteriorated over there. The Netanyahu govt and IDF leadership is completely incongruent with my Judaism.”

We explained that Belev Echad helps all wounded soldiers. We never ask if they are left-wing or right-wing. We even help Druze and Arab soldiers. We avoid politics and focus on healing.

Nevertheless, she remained firm in her position, insisting that she cannot support soldiers acting at the behest of the current Israeli government, which is sending them to commit acts of treason.

I wondered, then, why she had donated after October 7th.

“That was different,” she explained. “When Israel is fighting a truly noble war, and stops the wanton harassment and sanctioning of Palestinian living in the West Bank, then I will donate again. I donated just after 10/7 for that reason. However, what’s going on now is not about security it is genocide and ethnic cleansing and I cannot support soldiers who have taken part in this.”

With that in mind, we gave it one last-ditch effort. “Would you consider supporting a soldier who was injured on October 7th, who needs a laptop for her studies?”

And she agreed! “If you can assure me that no portion of the money will go elsewhere, then yes!” 

Voila! Success! 

I kept thinking about this interaction long after it was over. First of all We never ever give up! But what actually happened here? How did we go from “Take me off your list and never email me again” to “Yes, I’ll contribute towards a laptop”?!

And I realized it’s all about meeting people where they’re at. At first, it seemed like we were at complete odds with no common ground. But after going back and forth a few times, it became clear that we actually share a lot: a deep concern for the individual soldiers. And with that mutual care and brotherly love, we can work together to improve lives. 

Our world is more divided than ever. Politics, religion, business disagreements, etc. And it’s so easy—and tempting—to completely dismiss someone with whom we disagree. Unfortunately, cutting off relationships over small differences has become all too common. 

But what if we pushed ourselves to engage further until we find that common ground? We may always disagree on certain things, but in almost all cases, there is a lot more connectedness and agreement than those few sticking points. 

The same goes for Torah and mitzvot. If someone isn’t ready to keep Shabbat fully, we don’t write them off—we encourage them to observe for a few hours and then add more as they feel ready. If they can’t commit to keeping kosher at all times in all places, we encourage them to start with what does feel doable and build up from there.

It’s all about meeting people where they’re at. It’s one of the most powerful tools we have in our arsenal.

Let's continue loving each other because at the end of the day we are all brothers!

An Israeli Passport, Lost on the Streets of Manhattan

I had just gotten home and was finally sitting down when my phone buzzed. A rabbi in New Jersey had forwarded me a picture of an Israeli passport with the text: "Found this passport on the streets of Manhattan. Does anybody know this person?"

I looked at the picture and almost fell off my chair. I knew exactly who it was! It was Dvir!

I immediately called the rabbi who had forwarded me the message. "I know this guy!" I said.

He laughed and replied, "I don't actually have the passport. I just forwarded it from another WhatsApp group."

The passport had already taken on a life of its own, bouncing from one WhatsApp group to another, hoping that eventually someone would recognize the owner.

I tried to call Dvir to let him know. No answer.

I called again. Still nothing.

Maybe he saw my name and thought, "Uh-oh ... the rabbi is fundraising again!" and decided to let it go to voicemail. Who knows.

But I knew that Dvir flies from Israel to New York for business every week, almost always returning home on Thursday evening. And it was now Thursday afternoon, which meant he was probably already on his way to the airport.

Since I couldn’t get hold of Dvir, I called Jack, the CFO of his company.

"Jack," I said, "I think I know where Dvir's passport is."

"What do you mean? His passport is missing?"

"He probably doesn't even know yet," I replied. "But trust me, you need to go and get it."

I gave Jack the phone number of the man who had found the passport. What happened next was pure and visible Divine Providence: The finder of the passport and Jack were just blocks away from each other in Manhattan!

Within minutes, they met, Jack grabbed the passport and raced to Dvir before he reached the airport, and handed it to him.

Dvir boarded his flight to Israel completely unaware of how close he had come to disaster, thank G-d and thanks to a highly networked group of rabbis on Whatsapp!

Whew!

Later, I realized that there’s a deeper lesson here.

For several hours, Dvir had a significant, life-disrupting problem. He would’ve been stuck, unable to get back to Israel.

And yet, he wasn't anxious. He didn’t panic.

Because he didn’t even know! While he calmly continued toward the airport, other people were already solving the problem for him.

And while we may not have lost our passports, the same goes for the rest of us. How much time do we spend overwhelmed by our worries? We worry about our health, our children, our finances, our future, the security situation in Israel, the state of the Jewish people worldwide, natural disasters … the list is unending.

But just because we don't see the solution doesn't mean there isn't one. Long before we become aware of the problem, Hashem has already begun arranging the solution.

Our job isn't to carry the weight of the entire world on our shoulders; it’s simply to do our best, say another prayer, take another step forward—and trust that Hashem is already holding the passport we think we've lost.

I Started a Fight at the Western Wall

Last Shabbat, I got into a massive argument at the holiest site on earth — right at the foot of the Western Wall.

Because of a quirk in the Jewish calendar, Jews outside of Israel have been one Torah portion behind Israel for weeks. In Israel, Shavuot is celebrated for one day; outside of Israel, for two. But because Shavuot this year fell on Friday and Shabbat, that one extra day threw the Torah reading schedule out of sync for weeks.

The long-awaited "catch-up" Shabbat finally arrived. Outside of Israel, we would read a double portion, Chukat–Balak, while in Israel they would read only Balak. By the next week, we’d be back in sync.

There was just one problem: I was in Jerusalem that Shabbat, and halachically, I was still on “American time” and needed to hear Chukat–Balak.

My father was with me, visiting from South Africa. He had a yahrzeit and wanted to receive Maftir, so we walked down to the Kotel, where there are dozens of minyanim praying side by side at any given time.

We joined a minyan, and when it came time for the Torah reading, my father offered to read.

When I added, "I'd like to hear Chukat–Balak," everything changed.

The Israelis looked at me as if I had lost my mind. "We already read Chukat last week!"

"I know, but we Americans haven’t heard it yet," I countered. "I'll read it fast!"

"Why should everyone have to sit through it again? Tircha d'tzibbur!" they argued — the halachic principle that you don't unnecessarily burden a congregation. "Just read Balak. And make it quick."

"But those of us from outside Israel still need to hear Chukat!" I pleaded. "What does it bother you? Come on!"

And so, for several minutes, right there at the foot of the Western Wall — surrounded by soldiers, tourists, yeshiva students, families, and visitors from around the world — a passionate halachic battle raged over the burning question: Should we read one Torah portion or two?

Ultimately, I gave in and we read only Balak.

You might think I walked away upset, but actually I couldn't stop smiling.

Think about everything that's happening in the world right now. We have enemies threatening us from every direction. Iran could attack at any moment. Antisemitism is exploding across the globe. Politicians rise to power on platforms of hostility toward our people. The Jewish people have no shortage of real, existential things to fight about.

And what did a group of Jews choose to argue about, at the holiest place on earth, at one of the most turbulent moments in modern history?

Whether to read one parshah or two on Shabbat morning.

How beautiful is that?!

The world defines people by what consumes them. What occupies their conversations. What keeps them awake at night. And the Jewish people certainly care about the great issues of our generation. But underneath it all, after thousands of years, what still ignites our deepest passion is Torah.

We argue because we care. Our disagreements aren't signs of weakness. They're signs of love. You don't fight passionately over something you're indifferent to. A nation that argues about Torah is a nation that is still invested and in love.

And that gave me tremendous hope.

Because as long as Jews are still arguing about Torah, Torah is still shaping the Jews.

Empires have risen and fallen. Our enemies have come and gone. Babylon, Rome, and a hundred others who swore we wouldn't survive are footnotes in history books — while we're still standing at that Wall, debating the same Torah our grandparents debated, and their grandparents before them.

And that's the greatest miracle of all.

P.S. I still think we should have read Chukat!

A New Yorker Screamed at Me!

On Wednesday morning, I opened the door to get out of my Uber and immediately closed it because a car was driving by. Annoyed, the other driver rolled down his window, and screamed: "Only the Jews act this way!"

For a moment, I felt the sting of an age-old hatred that has followed our people for thousands of years.

Then my mind returned to the night before, Tuesday night, in Israel, at our Belev Echad House.

Ambulances pulled up outside. Shuttles arrived from the hospital. Soldiers were helped out of wheelchairs, some needing help just to walk through the door.

Within an hour, close to one hundred wounded IDF soldiers filled the room, all injured fighting in Lebanon these past months.

Some had lost arms. Some had lost legs. Some had lost their eyesight. Some carried brain injuries no one could see.

This is what Jew hatred does. 

And yet the room wasn't heavy with grief. It was full of life.

Music. Laughter. Raffles. Friends teasing each other like nothing had ever happened to them. Smiles that had clearly fought through unbearable pain just to reach the surface.

There, with each other, for a few hours, they weren't patients or casualties. They were family.

No one stared. No one pitied. No one needed to explain anything,  because everyone in that room already understood.

Watching them, I understood something too: we have every reason to break. And somehow, we keep choosing to build. To smile. To take care of one another.

The man who screamed at me yesterday? Maybe he had a bad day. Or maybe he truly hates Jews. Who knows?

But I wish he could have seen what I saw the night before: a room full of young people who gave everything so that others could live in safety. Young men and women who do not think of themselves, but fight for freedom, for Israel, for Jews everywhere, and for all humanity! 

We have never been defined by those who hate us. And our answer to darkness has never been revenge. It has always been the Torah and its mitzvot!

Despite the pain, we dance. Despite the wounds, we laugh. Despite the hatred, we love.

We have just entered three weeks of mourning for the destruction of the Holy Temple. This period commemorates many tragedies in our history and many times others sought to destroy us. But we are still here, doing mitzvot and studying Torah. 

Despite every attempt to break us — the Jewish people will prevail. Am Yisrael Chai!

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